Wednesday, January 3, 2007
first blog of the new year
Well as 2007 begins I can't believe the changes that have occured in the past 7 years. Many good, some bad, some friendships mended and some ended. I re met my husband, bought a house, got married, had a baby...etc. As I look back at old New Year resolutions I see that most of the time I don't keep the. This year I decided not to make any. I have some goals I would like to reach and some changes to make, but all in all I am happy with how my life has turned out. I can't worry about my weight, especially in my field of work, I would like to loose about 10-15 pounds to be at my healthy weight but need to be careful about showing this around the girls that I work with. Many of the girls have eating disorders and most picked it up from society and their mothers. I want to loose weight and will in time. I would like to start my own buisness so I do not have to go back to work. I would like to concieve another child as I don't want Nathanial to be an only child. I was and I always wanted a brother or sister. I would like to do some home improvements and get rid of many things that are cluttering our house. Those are my 2007 goals, some may be met and others not, but hopefully I will try to meet some.
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those all seem realistic- nothing that cannot be accomplished
i agree about setting resolutions and not keep them- that's why mine are more like "personal goals" as well-nothing i know i won't be able to obtain- just improvements on my lifestyle, etc..
Happy New Year, Danielle! Those things seem like they can be accomplished and I think you're right in setting personal goals- 'resolutions' for some reason, just have that feeling like one may or may not be able to keep. Maybe it's just in the way things are worded, but for myself, personal goals feel like they're more attainable! :)
Those seem like reasonable goals. I love making new years resolutions, and even if I only keep a few of them, I focus on the successes and not the failures and feel like I have made positive changes that I have needed to. New Years just seems like such a good tiem to take stock and see where I need to tweak.
I hear you on the weight thing. My mom was pretty obsessed with her weight, and I am sure it has led to some unhealthy attitudes I have had about my own weight over the years-going from being onsessevely thin to convinced it doesn't matter and doing nothing to watch my weight, and back again. Now I have found a balance between being obsessive about it, and just not caring and letting myself go...but it remains a bit of a challnge, managing my weight while doing it an a health focussed unobbsessive way and not modelling things for Zoë that I don't want for her.
I hope Zoë doesn't hate being an only child as much as you did, since it is what works for our family and I LOVE having one child. Any suggestions how I can make it a better experience for her than it was for you? I would hate for her to look back on her childhood and have hated it after all Adam and I do to make it a happy and good one for her.
Its not that I hated growing up as an only child, I hated being alone. I loved being with my friends but most had brothers and sisters. I always wanted to have a brother or a sister to play with, and to take the attention away from me always, because as an only child all the focus is was on me. Also I wanted siblings so that when I had children they would have cousins and aunts and uncles. Thats one of the reasons I wanted to marry into a large family. Also having most of the family in Europe it probably made it harder.
Also on a tragic note, a friend of mine lost both her parents and she was an only child is now alone.
I guess Zoë will be a little better off then, as she has 6 first cousins all in Toronto, as well as aunts and uncles. In some ways I would like her to have a sibling, but I also firmly believe a child has to be wanted for his/her own role, not the role they will play in another child's life, so the fact that I love my family and life as it is and don't want anymore kids really negates me having them for Zoë. Whether she has siblings or not, she will make her own family and surround herself with them, and hopefully never be alone in the world.
On a side note, my mother has one brother--they are not close and never have been. We see him at weddings and funerals, and that is it. He was no support to my mother when her parents dies-I think being on her own without the support of a sibling was even harder as he did exist, he just wasn't there for her. My father has 4 siblings...there are so many fights in that family it is unbelievable and most of them do not talk to one another. My own brother and I get along but we are not close, and he has not and will not contribute to Zoë having cousins. That is not to say all sibling relationships are like that, they aren't...just that my own family has made me more comfortable not "giving" Zoë a sibling, since I know there are no guarantees that siblings will be friends or supports to one another. Friends, however, always will, and I am confident that Zoë will have the kind of loving and supportive friends that I do!
I agree with you, Jeff has a brother who has no kids but has many first cousins 12 in total who are all very close with us so it is great for Nathanial, as well as the fact that his youngest cousin is only 2 1/2 years younger than him is great. Jeff and his cousins all grew up being very close which is great for me and Nathanial. Even though I am very far awayfrom my cousins we are very very close but its not the same. I am not saying that being an only child is the worst thing, but almost every only child goes through moments of wanting a sibling as I believe so many siblings wish at one time or another they were the only one.
My mom is very close with her brother and my dad had 2 brothers and 1 sister and was close with his 2 brothers but not his sister.
Your daughter will be very lucky as she has great parents, and close family and friends around her always.
For me being an only child just makes me want a bigger family for me.
almost every only child goes through moments of wanting a sibling as I believe so many siblings wish at one time or another they were the only one.
So true!
For me being an only child just makes me want a bigger family for me.
Oh yeah, I get that...maybe we'll have lots of grandkids LOL!!! I think it is the opposite with me, as a twin I have always had a sibling, right there, sharing every moment and every event...so I kinda like that Zoë is not gonna have that.
Danielle, I often wondered what it would have been like if I were an only child. I've got two brothers (29 and 20) and sometimes wished I were an only child!! I have to admit that despite all the sibling rivalry, I did love growing up with siblings.
I think it's neat that Jill loves having one child and that it works well for her family. I have a few friends who have only have one child in their families and they love it that way. I can understand that and see how they feel about wanting to give their child all their love. I know that one can also not divide their love amongst their children and instead divide their love or spread their love. I can see both sides. Whatever works :) Each family is different.
I totally see how you feel though. I would love to have more than one child. John says he'd like 2 or 3...or even 4! (yeeeesh!) Let's just work on trying to conceive ONE first! LOL!
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